BARRY NEIL KAUFMAN

Exploring, teaching … happiness and well being
for more than 40 years…

MY FOCUS

AUTHOR

OPTION INSTITUTE

AUTISM TREATMENT CENTER OF AMERICA

Family

“Take everything you thought you knew about human behavior
… and give it one giant twist.”

TEACHER … PHILOSOPHER

Core Philosophy

We live in a ‘victim culture’. We’re taught that our environment determines who we are. I act the way I do because of my childhood, my boss, my spouse, the weather. So we try to change our environment,including the people around us. Sometimes we get downright controlling. Or we just feel like passive victims: if only this or that would happen, everything would be just fine.

It doesn’t work that way.

Why? Because the ‘if onlys’ are always beyond our reach. There’s always something else that comes down the road: the loss of a job, conflict with children, catastrophic illness, not to mention the day to day difficulties of life. Here’s the twist. The Option Institute takes the classic stimulus-response model and adds one element: beliefs. What we believe filters every stimulus we encounter. Change your beliefs.

  • Happiness Is A Choice

    Though many of us speak as if our emotions happen to us, we believe that they are responses we choose in an effort to take care of ourselves. Misery, fear, anger, distress, anxiety, and discomfort are optional, not inevitable.

  • You have your own answers

    Oftentimes, we look for our answers from experts – everyone but ourselves.

  • Changing the way you see things changes everything

    Most of us think that events in our lives are inherently good or bad, and we can only hope for more good than bad.

  • We do not teach "the truth"

    We do not teach "the truth." We do not teach "the right way to live."

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1 day ago

SON-RISE PROGRAM EYES

“In working with our heroes this week (moms and dads blessed with children with autism) at Autism Treatment Center of America, I introduce the perspective of creating Son-Rise Program® Eyes: not only seeing our children through the eyes of acceptance and inclusion, but ... See more

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It’s never too early to decide that "Happiness is a Choice"!

Photo provided by Son-Rise Program® Mom, Saeng Muangcharoen.

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3 days ago

“Unhappiness is not inevitable. We can un-teach ourselves discomfort and distress…and begin again. The key is to know that our feelings don’t just happen to us. We choose them. And this means that another choice is open to us.”

-“Bears” Barry Neil Kaufman, Co-Founder of the Option ... See more

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While on the Autism Treatment Center of America® campus this week, many parents and professionals registered for The Son-Rise Program® Online to ensure their program starts strong and stays effective, even after they've left the On-Site Start-Up.

See how The Son-Rise Program Online can help you ... See more

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4 days ago

“Every day someone will challenge us, will belittle us, will tell us you can't do it, or you're not equipped, or simply it can't be done -- and every day we can lie down and play dead...or we can reaffirm -- it was never about needing to reach the star in order to be ourselves and do our ... See more

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LOVE, GUIDE, AND LET GO

“Many of us believe we love our children (and we certainly do when we're not unhappy and distracted). Many of us believe we have guidance for our children and offer it. What many parents struggle with is letting go. In the end, your children will do what they do. If we ... See more

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6 days ago

WE JUST KNOW WITH CONTINUED WORK, COREY’S FUTURE WILL BE BRIGHT, AND IT IS ALL THANKS TO THE SON-RISE PROGRAM®.

“Our beautiful son Corey was diagnosed as severely autistic shortly after his third birthday, as of yet he is non-verbal. We were told by national organizations (we live in ... See more

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1 week ago

"WHAT IS THERE TO CELEBRATE? Especially with so much turmoil in the world. Let's take another look.

You can be anywhere and do anything….and still take time to celebrate.

Here we are a few months ago in Central Park, Manhattan (NYC)…behind us is a very, very tall skyscraper recently built ... See more

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“HE NOW SAYS THINGS LIKE ‘MISS YOU, MOMMY’…THIS IS SOMETHING I WOULDN’T EVEN DARE TO DREAM OF HEARING FIVE MONTHS AGO.”

“About five months after my Son-Rise Program® On-Site Start-Up, Anthony now speaks in 2-3 word sentences spontaneously. He now says things like ‘Miss you, ... See more

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STORYTELLING

"See every story you tell as fascinating; otherwise, don't tell it. Believe that your excitement about what you care about is not only a significant part of any tale you tell but, also, in terms of interpersonal cosmology, the most important part."

[Photo Notation: In St. Mark’s ... See more

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