BARRY NEIL KAUFMAN

Exploring, teaching … happiness and well being
for more than 40 years…

MY FOCUS

AUTHOR

OPTION INSTITUTE

AUTISM TREATMENT CENTER OF AMERICA

Family

“Take everything you thought you knew about human behavior
… and give it one giant twist.”

TEACHER … PHILOSOPHER

Core Philosophy

We live in a ‘victim culture’. We’re taught that our environment determines who we are. I act the way I do because of my childhood, my boss, my spouse, the weather. So we try to change our environment,including the people around us. Sometimes we get downright controlling. Or we just feel like passive victims: if only this or that would happen, everything would be just fine.

It doesn’t work that way.

Why? Because the ‘if onlys’ are always beyond our reach. There’s always something else that comes down the road: the loss of a job, conflict with children, catastrophic illness, not to mention the day to day difficulties of life. Here’s the twist. The Option Institute takes the classic stimulus-response model and adds one element: beliefs. What we believe filters every stimulus we encounter. Change your beliefs.

  • Happiness Is A Choice

    Though many of us speak as if our emotions happen to us, we believe that they are responses we choose in an effort to take care of ourselves. Misery, fear, anger, distress, anxiety, and discomfort are optional, not inevitable.

  • You have your own answers

    Oftentimes, we look for our answers from experts – everyone but ourselves.

  • Changing the way you see things changes everything

    Most of us think that events in our lives are inherently good or bad, and we can only hope for more good than bad.

  • We do not teach "the truth"

    We do not teach "the truth." We do not teach "the right way to live."

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15 hours ago

THE SON-RISE PROGRAM® AFFIRMS THE HOPE IN MY HEART FOR MY SON TO OVERCOME!

“At age two, Rhema was not speaking, nor was he responding to his name. By age three, Rhema was diagnosed with Autism. After much trial and error, I began my research and found a book that has changed our lives forever. ... See more

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1 day ago

Imagine:

As teachers, our job is to love you.

Really?

"I thought it was to educate me about beliefs
and how I can change them and be happy.

Yes, that too.

But why do you say your job is to love me?

Ah, because at the beginning and in the end,
It will be the LOVE that will teach you.

In ... See more

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1 day ago
"EMOTIONAL SUICIDE" - ARE WE “DEAD” OR CHOOSING LIFE? | blog

"EMOTIONAL SUICIDE" - ARE WE “DEAD” OR CHOOSING LIFE?

Wow, you might think -- how can someone post such a bizarre question? "Look, I'm breathing!" Sure, we can acknowledge that someone is breathing. But let's take this one step further and hypothesize -- what does it mean to have died? Okay, ... See more

Wow, you might think -- how can someone post such a bizarre question? "Look, I'm breathing!" Sure, we can acknowledge that someone is breathing. But let's take ...

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2 days ago

CHILDREN GET TO “MAKE BELIEVE.” DO WE?

“Kids make believe they are super-heroes, rock stars, good guys/bad guys, fashion models, doctors, soldiers, reporters. They know that what they are doing is creative make-believe. Once children ignore that fact or “forget” they made it up and ... See more

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3 days ago

THIS IS THE BEST AUTISM TREATMENT FOR MY SON, AND THE BEST WAY FOR OUR FAMILY TO FIND HAPPINESS.

"When I first heard my son’s diagnosis, I was scared. Specialists did not provide a positive outlook. I was looking for something that would give us some hope-- and I found it!

I found The Son Rise ... See more

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4 days ago
When she was 17 | blog

“WHEN SHE (SAMAHRIA) WAS 17!
The year I met her.
The year I decided to love her.
The year God blessed me with a blessing (Samahria in my life) that I could not, at the time, grasp.
The year I found my best, best friend…”

Read more at ... See more

WHEN SHE (SAMAHRIA) WAS 17! The year I met her. The year I decided to love her. The year God blessed me with a blessing (Samahria in my life) that I could not, ...

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5 days ago

WE ARE LOVING THE CONNECTION THAT SON-RISE HAS GIVEN US WITH OUR DAUGHTER!

“When we started The Son-Rise Program® 3 years ago, Evie was mostly encapsulated in her own world, unable to comment on things that she saw, or share experiences with us. Now, literally every single day, she is saying ... See more

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6 days ago

“Just say everything you truly think, uncensored, to everyone you talk to for the next three days, and see how it feels inside.

Be fully honest. Fully authentic. It's not about being perfectly happy before we speak. It's about allowing others to know and see who we are inside. That's not an ... See more

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6 days ago

The Son-Rise Program® Online can help! Visit https://doautismdifferently.org/learn-more.

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1 week ago

“We are on our first week on the online program. For the FIRST time they sat down quietly and used the seat belt. No screaming!

For the FIRST time, Faith lovingly laid down on Seth's lap.

AND for the FIRST time in this very difficult journey, I believed with all my heart that they will have ... See more

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