BARRY NEIL KAUFMAN

Exploring, teaching … happiness and well being
for more than 40 years…

MY FOCUS

AUTHOR

OPTION INSTITUTE

AUTISM TREATMENT CENTER OF AMERICA

Family

“Take everything you thought you knew about human behavior
… and give it one giant twist.”

TEACHER … PHILOSOPHER

Core Philosophy

We live in a ‘victim culture’. We’re taught that our environment determines who we are. I act the way I do because of my childhood, my boss, my spouse, the weather. So we try to change our environment,including the people around us. Sometimes we get downright controlling. Or we just feel like passive victims: if only this or that would happen, everything would be just fine.

It doesn’t work that way.

Why? Because the ‘if onlys’ are always beyond our reach. There’s always something else that comes down the road: the loss of a job, conflict with children, catastrophic illness, not to mention the day to day difficulties of life. Here’s the twist. The Option Institute takes the classic stimulus-response model and adds one element: beliefs. What we believe filters every stimulus we encounter. Change your beliefs.

  • Happiness Is A Choice

    Though many of us speak as if our emotions happen to us, we believe that they are responses we choose in an effort to take care of ourselves. Misery, fear, anger, distress, anxiety, and discomfort are optional, not inevitable.

  • You have your own answers

    Oftentimes, we look for our answers from experts – everyone but ourselves.

  • Changing the way you see things changes everything

    Most of us think that events in our lives are inherently good or bad, and we can only hope for more good than bad.

  • We do not teach "the truth"

    We do not teach "the truth." We do not teach "the right way to live."

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1 week ago

GO OUTSIDE THE BOX

"It's only when you venture outside of the box called your life that you can actually see what's inside your box/your life, and then notice the endless opportunities you hadn’t noticed before. Think of one thing outside the box that you really want; then jump outside the box ... See more

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CHILDREN DESIGN THEMSELVES TO BE CHILDREN, NOT ADULTS.

"Let's not pressure our children to make OUR choices, but encourage them to be and CELEBRATE THEMSELVES as they choose to be. A child's job is not to "make-believe" he/she is an adult, but to be who they are: an amazing, wonderful, curious, ... See more

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IS MY WANT CLEAR OR FUZZY?

"I want you to be nice. (Not specific)
I want you to talk to me in a soft voice and spend one hour each night communicating to me. (Specific.)
I want you to care more. (Not specific.)
I want you to help me with carrying bags and packages when my back is hurting. ... See more

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“At one point I felt weak, sad, hopeless, and helpless—then you offered The Son Rise Program® Online and it is changing our lives forever!

If there is happiness and hope in my life, then it is thanks to your organization. I will never forget what the Autism Treatment Center of America® did ... See more

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ADVENTURES IN "LA-LA LAND"!

“Years ago, one of my siblings told me that I didn't live in the REAL WORLD - that I lived in LA-LA LAND. He didn't mean it as a compliment….Well, I am excited to say that I have never used what others have called ‘realistic’ as guideposts. La-La Land: A ... See more

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“Money can be useful in buying a materially easier life, but not a happy or loving life.”

– From “To Love Is To Be Happy With” by “Bears” Barry Neil Kaufman, Co-Founder of the Option Institute®

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2 weeks ago

DO AND DONE.

"Many folks process and process (working on losing weight, working on unhappiness), and never get it done. YOU CAN BE A PERSON WHO GETS IT DONE."

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"Bears" Barry Neil Kaufman, Author of "Happiness Is A Choice" Co-Founder of the Option Institute®

Take the first step toward ... See more

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CREATE RATHER THAN “HAVE.”

"I receive many cards during the holidays with messages like, 'Have a Happy New Year,' 'May you have a happy, healthy, prosperous New Year,' or 'Wishing you the best.' These are super sweet and loving messages.

But I am partial to suggesting, 'CREATE whatever New ... See more

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DARE TO BE ME/DARE TO BE YOU.

"Sure, sometimes we step back, play it safe, and make sure no one disapproves. At the same time, we give up being and presenting the full blossom of who we can be in the world.

Ultimately, the biggest risk is me not being me and you not being you. Then we have two ... See more

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"Two months before Luke turned two, my husband Ben and I connected all the dots and knew Luke was on the spectrum. I was crying my eyes out. Every dream we had for this little guy was gone.

Since starting The Son-Rise Program® Online three months ago, Luke has grown so much! I have longed for ... See more

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